Men are direct, Women are indirect

When a women talks, sometimes or rather most of the time, she uses indirect speech. She tends to hint at what she wants or beats around the bush without going straight to the point. Indirect speech does have its perks, to me it serves to avoid confrontations or discord and seeks to preserve harmony. However, men lack the sensitivity to pick up the real meaning most of the time and that can cause lotsa frustrations for both parties. I can identify, at times, when the ladies are hinting at something, but i can never quite guess correctly what they really want. T

Just last month, my mom was telling us over dinner which singers she like and what songs are nice et cetera. Some days later, she went on to talk about the high quality music dished out from DVDs. I dunno if i did the right thing here but i went to burn about 10 discs for her. she looks happy though. It may look obvious now, but it was pretty hard to decipher then. Maybe that day i should have bought some TOTO, was probably very heng then. Also, last month, i do not know why but my mom got pissed off when i told her that i do not want to go on an overseas trip, i have forgotten about the details in e conversation but even my sister found it strange. I am confused and still do not understand what went wrong that day.

Last week, i was out with my friend and she asked me "would you like to drink some coffee?" I cant take coffee but told her "hey, y not?". i have learnt my lesson from a previous incident. when a women asked you if you wanted cofee, what she really meant was that she wanted some. (correct me if i am wrong here). So dont simply reply "No thanks, its okie. " and think how nice it was of her to ask.. you might just get some silent treatment later on

Last year, i was out with another friend, she asked me a couple of questions and i simply answered them honestly. It pissed her off almost immediately and she starts to get unreasonable and accusing me of this and that. (I was so shocked and its like where did that come from?) I have a high tolerance for 小姐脾气 but that day i was pissed off too and replied "why not you write down on a piece of paper of all the questions that u wanna ask me so i can give u the perfect answers you want next time." You can roughly envisage what happened next. haha. However after a while, we both started to found the entire thing silly and simply laughed it off. But still, i aint got a clue.

Just last night, i was talking to a friend about soccer and told her that i will be going out to watch the euro finals later tonight. She asked me "where? with who?" Then i replied not sure with some friends of cos and her next reply was "HeHe~." Initially i though that was the end of the topic and wanan ask her something else, then it stucked me 'Ohh man, i am talking to a lady here' ..and asked her "y u wanna 跟来 is it" and her reply was "hah~ is tat ok?" ... 女人ah女人．．．

So when the girls ask you guys if u wanna do this or that, just ask them “你要吗？要就走咯”and do whatever they please. If they ask you to choose between two siutations (i.e. shoes, career path), ask them if they already have something in mind as most of the time they have already made a choice and only want a confirmation. Oh and shut up when they call or chat online to 发泄, just 很无奈的听着，把它当做 story telling time, i guess they simply needa let it out of their system. I am rather glad that i can be their 发泄 or 出气筒 (pun intended, haha, nah call me anytime.) In the end, i guess indirect speech is part of their genetic wiring and there is nothing guys can do. so just learn to deal with it. Lastly a friend of mine told me this, "女人是拿来爱的，不是用来了解的"。 但是,如果不了解，那how to 好好的爱呢？.